As human beings there is no one size fits all with medicine, pharmaceuticals, vaccines, food, exercise, supplements, vitamins, religion, etc.

How sad it is that we get baited in to thinking everyone on earth should be vaccinated, and that anyone that chooses not to is irresponsible. When evidence now coming out - that isn’t being censored or suppressed - proves people who don’t vaccinate have less chronic health problems as they develop and age.

Independent Medical Alliance

Senate Hearing Exposes Study Showing Vaccinated Children Have 2.5x Higher Rates of Chronic Illness

On Tuesday, September 9th, the Senate Homeland Security and Governmental Affairs Committee convened at 2 p.m. ET to examine How the Corruption of Science has Impacted Public Perception and Policies Regarding Vaccines. The hearing, led by Chairman Ron Johnson…

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Dr. Saleeby's Substack

Researchers Found Unvaccinated Children Healthier Than Vaccinated. This study was not published.

US News Report from ET…

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8 months ago · 24 likes · 9 comments · Yusuf JP Saleeby MD

What if one day you are on the other side of something being mandated or forced on you? What if one day you are forced to take supplements/herbs you and your doctor don’t feel are best for you?

You have the right to take 100 vaccines a year and as many boosters a month as you like, and I have the right to not take any vaccines, and take 100 supplements a month.

I was vaccine injured as a boy, and my life has never been the same since then. It is not rational, logical, reasonable, or cohesive to me that other people believe I am putting them in danger by not taking anymore vaccines after I was injured.

This is the same as saying unless you wear sunscreen, my sunscreen doesn’t work. Or my supplements only work if you take them too. My mask only works if you wear one too. Or my seatbelt only works if you wear one too. The whole point of taking the medicine, protective device, etc you and your doctor/professional/provider of choice decide is best for you is because it works for you, regardless of what everyone else is doing.

I am not diseased or dangerous for being a human being, existing unvaccinated, and having an immune system I trust, endowed to me by my Creator, and supported with exercise, traditions, indigenous ways of life, supplements, and foods rooted in nature and our Creator that have been around a lot longer than modern medicine and vaccines. Plumbing and us washing our hands, was what cleared up a lot of issues when people were dying younger from infections diseases.

I have not gotten complications from covid, and I worked with my doctor using ivermectin, hydroxychloroquine, zinc, and vitamin c, and it worked for me. Most of the people I know who got the covid vaccine now have health problems they did not have before getting that vaccine, and some still even got covid. A vaccine that works for you, makes it so that you do not get the disease you are being vaccinated to protect you from.

If your vaccine works for you - which is the whole point of being vaccinated - then why do you believe everyone else needs to be vaccinated for your vaccine to work? That is the whole point of deciding to take a medical intervention. We are not chattel or animals. We are human beings with different environments, genetics, cultures, lifestyles, eating habits, families, traditions, and backgrounds.

Dogma based religions and cults are what make people believe that everyone has to do the exact same thing as they are doing, and that anyone who does not do it is dangerous and dirty.

During covid the vaccinated and masked were publicized and put up on a pedestal as the clean, good, and responsible ones. The unmasked and unvaccinated were publicized, shunned, bad, ostracized out of civil society, and put down as the dirty and irresponsible ones.

Never forget how important it is we support and honor people across all choices and keep standing up for the right of everyone to make their own choices about their bodies and to speak freely - especially if you disagree with them. Because if we can’t all do these things regardless of what side we are on regarding a particularly issue, we are not truly free. Then there is no liberty, and pursuit of life and happiness for ALL.

Asao Shimanishi from the Volcano Alchemist

This is an excellent post that honors the work of a pioneer in minerals working to purify water, restore soil, and resurrect vitality.

Pierre Kory’s Medical Musings

Chapter 9: The Volcano Alchemist: Asao Shimanishi and the Mineral Code of Life

For the mineral minions reading my book, “From Volcanoes to Vitality,” that I am publishing in serial form, today is Chapter 9…

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7 months ago · 33 likes · 14 comments · Pierre Kory, MD, MPA

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This is good through the last day of 2025.

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The first time I made $10,000 in one month was the moment I finally had achieved getting out of poverty. I started my spending spree by giving a homeless man my left over food from my restaurant dinner. I have a place in my heart for the homeless, having chosen to be homeless the first time in my life to escape abuse. With more bouts of homelessness to come after that.

At this time everything I owned and was responsible for was paid in full, yet it was a huge smack in the face to find myself blowing this 10 grand on vodka, porn, prescription meds, and the wrong people who were shining me on. I ended up in therapy with a truly PSYCHO therapist I later discovered I was being abused by, that landed me homeless again in So Cal, then into a moldy apartment back up in Oregon. Then eventually homeless again when I had to leave the black mold infested apartment to save my life.

What I eventually came to discover is how unhappy I was, now that I was no longer in survival mode, and comfortable with all my bills paid. I was in a lot of pain from parting with the last woman I dated, and the surfacing of repressed trauma and memories recall that came out of that relationship. I was the happiest I had ever been when her and I were loving each other, and talking about making babies. I was making less money at that time, but was truly happy because it was in alignment with the vision of my future that the Creator gave me of being a lover and father.

I resonate with the following post very deeply from lived experience. Rob Henderson knows what he is talking about and speaks truth.

Rob Henderson's Newsletter

Sometimes Money Can Destroy You Faster Than Poverty

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One can destroy and hurt oneself faster with a lot of money because it gives you the means and resources to indulge, and take pleasure in as much gluttony and sloth as you want without killing yourself. I am one of the lucky ones who did not kill myself. Some other have not been so fortunate as I have been.

And please do check out Rob Henderson’s book Troubled if you have not already. It does not disappoint, and is one of the best books and memoirs I have ever read.

God bless you Rob, and Everyone here reading!

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And to add a little humor, I am sharing the following meme that goes well with the intro of the above podcast, where Mary mentions why women on meth can get pregnant more easily than women under stress.

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I am incredibly grateful to have you here reading, listening, and hearing what I have to say and share. Thank you all so very much from my Heart & Soul to yours!

During this time of year I take time to internally reflect and get clear on what really matters, and clean house where it need be cleaned. This gets me reconnected with where I am off and out of alignment with the person I was made to be, I want to be, and that I know deep down is the true me.

I hope you all are making time to do your own version of this, enjoying your time with friends and family, and getting yourselves dialed in and focused on what truly matters in your lives as we make our way into 2025.

Wishing you all a beautiful holiday season filled with humanity, dignity, love, light, and respect.

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Here is the link to Mark Sisson’s post that reminded me of this, and initially moved me to write this post!

FYI: if my info is correct. This guy is 75 in this picture, and recently started his 3rd business with his son.

I want to have my own version of this, and be as healthy and good looking at this age. We should follow, learn from, and seek knowledge of people who have what we want to have our own version of.

This one here from Good Work with Barrett Brooks on Excellence, Purpose, and Showing Up is outstanding! One of the best podcasts I have ever watched. Especially for those of you that want to learn more about what truly matters in your work.

And this one too from Nereeda McInnes and Christopher Kay from the Land Down Under goes bloody well with what matters most in life… mates’!

Here’s my latest testimonial from planting a cinder block raised vegetable and herb garden bed in Encinitas, California.

“I had a wonderful experience working with James to help me start an organic vegetable garden that I always dreamed of. I didn’t know the first thing about how to start a garden, and so having James consult with me to find out what type of garden, and how to care for it was exactly what I needed. He took care of all the shopping, adding the correct soil and nutrients, and the planting part. He left me with instructions on how to water and care for my plants, which led to a beautiful season of homegrown vegetables and herbs. Thank you James for your years of knowledge, and passion for natural living.”

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I am fascinated by primal, ancestral, and indigenous ways of eating and living life through the truth that we belong to the earth. Primal eating and supplementation has been a significant part of how I recovered and continue to regain my health and longevity.

Our health truly is our wealth and our potential as people and professionals. When we feel healthy from the inside out, and are filled with good energy, it makes it much easier to convey our value, contribute, and make a positive impact in our lives and the lives of others.

The following posts are excellent ones on the topics of living naturally on the earth, and indigenous tribes. They both contain education from a variety of angles.

Aether Pirates of the Matterium!

A Natural Man walking this Earth

The concept of the "natural man walking the earth" is a rich and often philosophically loaded idea. It was a primary motivation for both the Declaration of Independence, and the Constitution of the United States of America. If you consider it even casually, the Constitution is an agreement among Natural Men on how to conduct their common shared reality…

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And here is another I just finished watching tonight from Tim Ferris and Cyan Banister. God bless you all and have a good weekend!

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The areas I have the strongest skills, experience, and competencies in are regenerative earth stewardship, organic gardening, and health & longevity. The earth and human race is suffering right now, possibly greater than ever in human history in some areas, and needs help and healing. I want the word to get out as far and as wide as possible. This is my legend, and is bigger than me and the money with what I want to leave behind to my family and my future wife, our children, and future generations.

I am not a hand out guy. I prefer a hand up when I need help and education to learn and grow in an area that can better my life, income, local community, and the earth and humanity at large. I am incredibly grateful when people have given me a hand out and/or a hand up when I have needed it. I do not take these things for granted, and have not had an easy life. I know that the educational content that other professionals give away for free is part of what made me the professional I am today.

There is a lot of content on the internet that is given away freely, that can literally change and save lives for those who take action, experiment, explore it, vet it, check it for accuracy, and apply that knowledge. Those of us that don’t take it for granted and work within our own unique circumstances and means can pull ourselves up with what is offered freely.

In some cases when things are offered freely people don’t value it, and in worst cases with big tech today, you are the product. That is why so many of these “free” email and social media internet services were given to us at no charge. This is why when you notice everything you say in your email, social media, texts, on your phone calls, or Siri/Alexa that you are getting ads coming at you, and phishing, spam, and scammers to boot. We should all be discerning about what is given to us freely and ask questions.

I also give away my content freely here because I know it will give you a sense of my competence in consideration for hiring me. Giving things away provides value to my community and shows you my intelligence, cohesiveness, and experience on a subject, and also helps to build trust and rapport.

“Ideas that are hoarded help no one. Success follows generosity.” - James Clear

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Here are projects to consider in preparation for the coming winter.

-- Planting trees, shrubs, and berries. Fall is the best time of the year for planting projects, because you are giving your plants 7 months of cooler and wetter weather to support proper rooting, before the extreme heat comes to Arizona in the summer. Proper rooting is dependent on 2 things when plants are newly planted: consistent moisture - roots move towards water and only grow as far as the water goes - and cool weather.

-- October and November are 2 good times to do your greens for eating here in Northern Arizona. This is because in the high desert and desert, it starts to cool off in October. Although this year the first week of October we had record breaking heat.

--  If you have a lawn you want to keep green and clean, make sure to rake the leaves up. This is less important for your garden beds/bare dirt areas, and often even ideal to leave the leaves to help protect roots from freezing and cut down on weeds.

--  If you have soil areas that are compacted, use the cooler weather to work it. This applies to setting up garden beds, and for planting future trees, shrubs, vegetables, fruits, and herbs.

-- Working the soil with amendments and fertilizer before you plant can help prepare for better soil specific to what you want to grow there. This is the proper way to add fertilizer if you want it included in the bed: worked in before planting. Not when you are doing the planting, which can shock/kill a plant. This way you are enriching the proper soil nutrients with adequate time to disperse and de-concentrate in the soil. Aside from this, I recommend fertilizing when a plant show signs of ill health, not clearly caused by improper planting (too low in the ground), or plating in the wrong sun/shade ecology or soil.

-- Site assessment and planning for how you want to improve and care for your garden next year. Look at the plant health, spacing, beauty, and your unique garden ecology how it is now, and what you want to create in the long run. Work with nature - this is fundamental to doing things organically. Watch and observe how the plants and animals interact on your land. Where are the sunny and shady ecology areas area? What areas have problems that need to be improved? Look from drainage issues to plants not in the best place for their unique ecology requirements to thrive.

--  Prune back overgrowth in your pathways, off drip lines, emitters, sprinkler heads, and areas you want to tame back for flow/space. Get caught up on anything that got away from you during the summer season.

-- Don’t turn off your watering system and hand watering yet. Here in the Pacific Southwest and Northern Arizona, it generally stays warm, sunny, and dry until December. Here it is important to remember that fall season is often warm and hot, just not as hot as the summer desert temps that stay in the upper 90’s and over 100.

I'm James Dawson and it's good to have you here, and thank you for your interest.

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Too bad I didn’t know about NAC (n-acetyl-cysteine) to help my body and mental health before I started taking Modafinil & Armodafinil. This is the drug the Limitless movie is based on for those of you that may be wondering.

I also developed, or rather earned myself a salivary stone that supplements likely had a significant contribution to that got larger when I tried a new comprehensive multi-vitamin, mineral, and herbal formula. So this post is a bit ironical for me, given I had to learn the hard way that supplements that are unnecessary and have no blood work or hair mineral analysis basis in reality unique to my chemistry, and that are not whole food based caused me some problems. Not NAC though.

NAC was a huge helper for me when I started going through the worst part of my recovery from drugs, alcohol, and toxic black mold exposure. I am also taking it to help my body keep inflammation down for the inflammation with my salivary gland, and inflammation that comes when I have a flare ups with hashimoto’s thyroiditis. NAC stands out as my #1 go to supplement, and the one I know really works in a way that provides real results.

NAC is the precursor and building block for glutathione, which is your most important antioxidant. Here are the things it is known to help the body with.

• Supporting mental health. The #1 main reason I tried it and continue to take it.

• Detoxifying after harmful exposures and protection in the face of harmful exposures.

• Supporting replenishment of glutathione and elevated inflammation.

• Improving lung health and liver health.

• Protection from the flu.

• Fertility.

And here is the link to the article on NAC from Mark Sisson that inspired me to make this post.

What is NAC?

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This one made me smile, because intuitively when I eat the way we did back in the day, I am less stressed out and feel better inside my body. I particularly love how near the end of their post they mention how we used to eat with less fear, less restriction, and less rules/dogma when you look at their menus.

The bottom line is they ate with no insane diet rules, and plenty of wholesome calories. And don’t forget that the word diet starts with DIE.

What Our Ancestors Ate This Week in 1893

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I started becoming cynical and paranoid after that point in my life. I drank, pill popped, and pornoed myself into a gluttonous hell of pleasure seeking, instant gratification, and becoming a wanker as the British call it. It all came crashing down for me when I rented from a shady landlord in a toxic black mold infested apartment that brought me close to death.

It has only been more recently since I got on the road to recovery, that my hope has returned. I know what Nick says below is true, and how hard-earned real hopefulness is. His following quote is one I felt moved to share because it is so bloody good and spot on.

“You are right to be worried about your growing feelings of cynicism and your need to take action to protect yourself and those around you. … Cynicism is not a neutral position—and although it asks almost nothing of us, it is highly infectious and unbelievably destructive. In my view, it is the most common and easy of evils.
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I know this because much of my early life was spent holding the world and the people in it in contempt. It was a position both seductive and indulgent. The truth is, I was young and had no idea what was coming down the line. I lacked the knowledge, the foresight, the self-awareness. I just didn’t know. It took a devastation to teach me the preciousness of life and the essential goodness of people. It took a devastation to reveal the precariousness of the world, of its very soul, to understand that it was crying out for help. It took a devastation to understand the idea of mortal value, and it took a devastation to find hope.
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Unlike cynicism, hopefulness is hard-earned, makes demands upon us, and can often feel like the most indefensible and lonely place on Earth. Hopefulness is not a neutral position either. It is adversarial. It is the warrior emotion that can lay waste to cynicism. Each redemptive or loving act, as small as you like … keeps the devil down in the hole. It says the world and its inhabitants have value and are worth defending. It says the world is worth believing in. In time, we come to find that it is so.”

— Nick Cave, songwriter and frontman of Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds.

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I originally learned about this from Seth Godin from his book The Dip. I believe we need ways that can help us discern When to Quit and When to Stick.

Here is my list of green flags to confirm you are on the right track in something that is not toxic or a dead end.

• The leadership consistently focuses on strengths, and leads training you with what you are doing right and positive reinforcement first.

• The people you report to are 100% responsible. That means when you are not clear or make a mistake is made, it is on them. They don’t blame you, and they take full responsibly for their position within the chain of command. They ask questions about what you are missing and what is not clear. It is their job to work with you and support you until you do it they way they need it done.

• Things that need to be corrected, or when you do make a mistake, it is done with dignity and respect. You know this by tone of voice and body language. Or if a manager screws up and is off base with you. They look you in the eyes, apologize, and make things right.

Here is my list of red flags when you are in a dead end or toxic dynamic.

• You are being micromanaged, and only your mistakes and negatives are pointed out. You rarely ever hear what you are doing right and what you are rocking at.

• There is bullying, harassment, and defamation of character in the work place that goes up the chain. Could include getting ganged up on by people who are jealous of how good of a job you are doing. Even though you are the one not doing anything wrong and doing excellent, they start making things up, falsifying information, taking shots, and fabricating evidence against you.

• There are bad apples in every bunch. When it goes all the way up the chain and you see these types of behaviors from leadership you know you are in a dead end. Your mangers and higher ups should care about you in a way that is palpable, and they should elevate you and help you rock your job. This should make you feel confident and empowered in your role. Not drain you out.

• You can’t sleep at night with your mind racing about your work situation.

• You feel like you are walking on egg shells.

• You dread going to work.

There are inevitable challenges and rough patches in business and life. Having a gut check and reality check to know the difference between a dead end/toxic place, or a rough patch on the right path that needs to be worked through is critical.

This is the art of Knowing when to Quit and When to Stick.

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The toxic masculinity thing is an outright attack on men and masculinity. Otherwise the people who came up with this crap would have called it out properly for what it is: abusive, neglectful, and destructive BEHAVIORS. All human beings are capable of this. Toxicity knows no gender and is based in actions, behaviors, tone of voice, and the way you are being and what you are doing.

Boys and men are the ones who are falling behind and struggling the most now in society. If you look at the data and statistics that are accurate - this is the truth. We need more support of the good men in this world, and to reject this bullshit.

I’m leaving you with what has become a new favorite song of mine. One of the Good Ones by Gabby Barrett.

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https://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-68942123

I hope the video of this dialed in Orangutan makes you as happy as it made me. When Rakus started kissing the tree at the end of the clip I lit up like a Christmas tree! This compliments my last podcast on the Circle of Life and How Everything has a Purpose and Place in Nature.

We seem to have forgotten this, and/or got talked out of it. Now it is time for us to REMEMBER, pay attention to nature, learn the truth about history and our past, and heal ourselves and humanity one person, and one brother and sister at a time.

Have a great rest of your weekend Everyone!

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I am totally dependent on clean air, clean water, and clean food to nourish my body. I am also totally dependent on God, the Great Spirit, the Great IT, the Universe, or whatever you want to call a Higher Power. I would be dead if I could not hear the whisper inside me.

Now don’t get me wrong, I understand that people can get enmeshed in toxic ways and form unhealthy, neglectful, and abusive relationships. That is what it is though, not codependency that self help gurus are making a killing on. Which ultimately feeds off genuine needs we all have, and then inverts those needs to have that person stuck feeling guilty for having real needs and wants with other human beings that are healthy and real.

It is doing honest relationships and being straight up with each other in mutual dignity, respect, care, and concern for each other that makes it healthy and workable, or some type of abusive or neglectful relationship.

It’s okay to be dependent on other people. We used to be in tribes where the social bonds were strong, and we raised people in a community from birth to death. All mutually looking out for each other in dependency.

I am incredibly lucky to be alive and celebrating over 4 years in recovery. As time goes on things become more clear, and make me more grateful for what I DO have. I know that one of the greatest yearning and longings is connection, community, having a family, and building relationships/joining groups with other who have shared values/goals and elevate each other.

If you hire me for a project, you depend on me to show up on time, on budget, and as I promised you in our work agreement. I depend on you to pay me on time and as we agreed upon, and keep your end of the deal. This is a business based and professional context where dependency is also how we mutually build a strong and workable professional relationship that serves both parties well.

The strawberries pictured below are dependent on being picked by humans or eaten by animals to spread their seed and provide the nourishing fruit they offer to animals and people. We as humans are dependent on our farmer to grow the strawberries and distribute them to local farmers markets and grocery stores.

This is the circle of life, and it is dependent based. We are codependent, and this is a good and healthy thing.

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• "When my brother and I were growing up, my father would encourage us to fail. We'd sit around the dinner table and he'd ask, "What did you guys fail at this week?" If we had nothing to tell him, he'd be disappointed. The logic seems counterintuitive, but it worked beautifully.
  
  He knew that many people become paralyzed by the fear of failure. They're constantly afraid of what others will think if they don't do a great job and, as a result, take no risks. My father wanted us to try everything and feel free to push the envelope. His attitude taught me to define failure as not trying something I want to do instead of not achieving the right outcome."

• "If you feel resistance before you begin, it's usually procrastination and you need to get started.
  

  If you feel resistance after you begin, it's usually feedback and you need to make adjustments."

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Enjoy Everyone and have a DOPE rest of your weekend!

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For those of you like me that are in the same boat, dating and waiting on the one. Rob speaks directly to, and references the work of others that clarifies the red flags and green flags to look out for.

I know the Siren Song well myself on my Odysseus-like journey, and the nightmare that can ensue when I choose the wrong partner. My breakup with my last girlfriend bloody well almost killed me. All the red flags were there, yet I ignored them because I did not know any better at that time.

On the flip side of this: I recently was pursuing a woman and was able to spot the red flags immediately. I stopped pursuing her, and was able to see the dark cloud around her after I walked away. A week or so later, I met a woman who twirls when she gets close to me!

This was one of the most painful breakups and experiences I have ever had in my life. It unlocked trauma that was buried in me from childhood, and was lock-step with the abusive, neglectful, and toxic family dynamics I was born into. When one has a bad template for relationships, we tend to default to not being deserving or worthy of love, dignity, respect, and healthy relationships.

I don’t want to go through this type of heartache again, and am committed to learning and growing in this area, and working through and learning how to take care of myself in this area of life. I don’t want my future children and our family to have to endure what me and my sister did as children.

Here is my favorite quote from the end of the post:

“This perspective on relationships underscores the importance of mutual support and shared growth. The notion of the “special woman” and “special man” transcends the conventional understanding of romantic partnerships, emphasizing a deeper, more harmonious connection. This link is not solely about love or attraction or sex; it is about finding a partner who understands, encourages, and participates in your life journey. Such a relationship becomes a crucible for personal and professional development, where both individuals are not just companions but co-architects of a shared future.”

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I read her content all the way through because it is clear and felt she is the real deal in her field, and she writes some of the longest and most comprehensive posts I have ever read. If you take the time to read all the way through one of her posts, I don’t believe you will be disappointed.

At one point I started tearing up because the care, concern, and sincere regard this woman has for practicing medicine and doing the right thing is felt. I am touched and moved by posts like this because I know how hard it is to find people today when you need help in a specific domain that are cohesive, comprehensive, properly skilled and experienced, and grounded in dignity and respect. And a person or organization who palpably has you as an individual and your best interest at heart, and is clearly in it for more than the money.

MWD focuses specifically on why her Substack has blown up with subscribers because of her focus on quality and relatability over quantity. I know myself I would like to consistently get better at my writing so it improves, comes through clearly in my own unique version of this style of writing she speaks of, and provides immense and cohesive value by making a topic understandable for as many people as possible.

Right in the beginning of her post she writes about how trapped emotions and trauma control peoples actions, and also end up coming through in their writing.

“In turn, I noticed there were a lot of writers who I felt shared really useful information I wanted to learn but simultaneously just did not feel good to listen to and I essentially had to suffer through their angst to get to what I was looking for.  As I became older and began to realize how much trapped emotions (e.g., trauma) unconsciously controlled people’s actions, I came to the understanding that those trapped emotions were often what fundamentally drove people to write and that simultaneously, as I saw in many other facets of the human experience, those writers often just weren’t aware of the influence their trapped emotions had upon their life.”

I too can see and feel underneath the veils/masks in the world. Yet I never really thought about this as is laid out above, and found this highly insightful that our trapped emotions can drive us to write. I surely can’t deny this is true for me having come from a traumatic back story myself.

This is another quote that stood out from the post:

“One of the most helpful pieces of advice I heard when I was younger was that people tend to remember not what you said but rather how you made them feel.  All of this, in turn, led me to conclude that when writing, the state of mind you hold when you write is often the most important thing. Put differently, on many different levels, what you hold in your brain and your heart as you communicate is what’s ultimately imparted to your audience and likewise typically determines if they want to read what you wrote in the first place.”

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The source of where I originally learned about how there are good and bad forms of stress came from Mitchell May. This came from his Healing, Living, and Being audio series. I recommend listening to this classic 6 tape recording if you can find a copy.

Here is my shooting from the hip list of some examples you can use to help you remember there are stressors that are bad, and stressors that are good.

Bad Stress

• Consuming fast food - junk food - processed food - seed oils - hydrogenated oils - refined sugars - over eating - toxic relationships.

• Black mold exposure.

• EMF and 5G exposure.

• Watching the news and listening to the media - independent media and people who tell the truth are not included. Even though the truth right now is bad and stressful, you can do something positive and be proactive to be the change you wish to see in the world in the face of the crap we are facing today.

• Listening to heavy death metal - Metallica the album Metallica is not included.

• Spending time with vampires and fair weather people.

• Letting people physically touch you you don’t want to be touched by.

• Taking on debt with no purpose or plan.

• Drug and alcohol use and abuse.

Good Stress

• SEX with someone you love and care about. When you really feel into it, sex is a highly stressful activity, and we all know it feels good. This is positive form of stress that is also one of the most creative and sacred aspects of our being. It literally has the power to create LIFE.

• LAUGHTER - Laughing until tears are rolling down your face is the best if you can let yourself go when something is that funny and moves you!

  

• Pursuing meaningful work, and doing whatever you have to do to make ends meet, be responsible, and the creator of your destiny and dreams.

• Saying yes to things you know you need to do that scare you. This can be moving towards your fears instead of running away. And I am not talking about being irresponsible, taking un-calculated risks, or doing stupid shit.

• Making and holding steady in boundaries to protect your time and energy.

I have found that many good stresses are often the act of saying no to, and having uncomfortable conversations to protect your time and space.

I recently let someone know we were past my complimentary initial phone consultation. It got my heart racing to text him back after he started texting me past that point because I could feel where he was coming from was off.

I listened to the whisper inside me, then I let him know I needed to be paid for my time if he wants to ask me any more questions or have any more of my time. This was stressful in the moment, and makes me less stressed with now one less negative in my life because I didn’t procrastinate, got it done, and set the boundary around the value of my time. This in turned freed up more of my time, space, and energy to stay focused on my highest priorities.

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